communication.
asking their opinions
Interrupt others o make
and encouraging them your own points.
to elaborate.
7. Keep the conversation going by asking questions and showing interest in others’ ideas.
express
something helpful
understanding of their 6. Don’t share the talk
feelings.
stage with others, wrest
6. Include others in
it from them with
conversation by
Feminine Talk e talk to build and sustain rapport with others. 2. Share yourself and learn about others through disclosing 3. Use talk to create symmetry or equality between people
comments enhance depth of connection
7. Each person is on her or his own; it’s not your job to help others join in.
8. Use responses to make your own points and to outshine others.
Unit 6
Cross-Gender Communication
Objectives
1. Learn the differences of sex and gender; 2. Learn the differences of feminine and
masculine communication cultures; 3. Learn to understand cross-gender
• Boys’ games emphasize achievement, both for the team and for the individual members.
Differences between Feminine and Masculine Communication Culture
2. What is the difference between sex and genger?
• Sex is determined by genetic codes that program biological features.
• Man woman • Male female
Indicate sexual identities
Masculine Talk
1. Use talk to assert yourself and your ideas.
2. Personal disclosures can make you vulnerable
3. Use talk to establish your status and power
misunderstanding conflict
2. Text Study
Please read Sex and Gender in your textbook from page 119 to 120 and answer the following questions.
1.What is sex? And what is gender?
women and women doctors. • Man and woman are like two hedgehogs in
winter: too close, get hurt; too far away, get lonely and cold.
• Is it possible to get a confidante or male confidant in reality?
Sex is determined by genetics and biology, while gender is produced by society.
Please read Feminine and Masculine Communication Cultures in your textbook from page 120 to 123 and answer the following
• :“别瞎说，我们只是好朋友而已。”听到这种台词，相必一大帮人会带着一副原来如此 的表情在心里说“且……”。
• 我只听过一句话“不要让你的女朋友有蓝颜知己，因为蓝着蓝着你就绿了，不要让你 的男朋友有红颜知己，因为红着红着你俩就黄了”我觉得很对。
• 在幼儿园里存在，还有就是耄耋之年有，这中间的年龄段绝对是挑战。
4. Matching experiences with others shows understanding and empathy
4. Matching experiences is a competitive strategy to command attention.
5. To support others, 5. To support others, do
Gender is more complex than sex. masculine and feminine
sex
gender
biological permanent individual property
socially constructed varied over time and across cultures social and relational quality
9. Be assertive so others perceive you as confident and in command.
10. Talking is a linear sequence that should convey information and accomplish goals.
8. Be responsive. Let others know you hear and care about what they say.
9. Be tentative so that others feel free to add their ideas.
10. Talking is a human relationship in which details and interesting side
Four Examples
• What counts as support? • Tricky feedback • Expressing care • I’d rather do it myself.
Six Principles
• Suspend judgement. • Recognize the validity of different
communication styles • Provide translation cues. • Seek translation cues. • Enlarge your own communication style • Suspend judgement
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• The case shows man and woman’s different attitudes toward their relationship, and the parents’ attitudes regarding children’s love and marriage in Chinese culture.
cooperative)
• Be cooperative, hecollaborative,and inclusive
• Don’t criticize or outdo others.
• Pay attention to other’s feelings and needs
Boy’s games (more structured,
large, individualized)
• Assert yourself. • Focus on outdoors. • Be competitive.
Summary
• Girls’ games occur within a gender culture that emphasizes cooperation, sensitivity toward others, and experience more than outcome.
questions.
• What are the basic rules of boy’s or girls interaction?
• What are the differences between feminine and masculine communication culture?
Girls’ Games (unstructured,
• To John 6 months not lead to marriage • To Li Hua time to bring John to meet
parents • To Li Hua’s parents treat John as a
future son-in-law background marriage plans