· western countries
women play leading roles in families and enjoy a wide range of freedom
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status of women and degree of social opening
• China
women have a low social status and they must obey the three obediences and the four virtues and have little freedom in choosing thier husbands
西方人重视恋爱，有恋爱至上的标语，中国人重 视婚姻而轻视恋爱。
• The extent of pursuing love • Manners of expressing love • Attitudes toward sex
• Chinese they always give up true love or struggle for thierlove negatively · Westerners they pursue true love boldly and love indepence and freedom
Westerners
frankly、open、 regardless of everything
'I loved you. I never shall. That's the truth, Roy. I never shall.' ‘我爱你，从未爱过别人，永远不会，这是真的，罗伊，永 远不会。’
Chinese They consider it immoral to have sex with someone before getting married and children are the link of couples.
Westerners They think it is common for lovers to have sexual relations and sex is just a physiological needs.
Marriage
结婚你不是嫁给了某一个人，而是嫁给了这个人的全部社会关系。你们 俩的结合就是两个家庭的结合，他娶了你，就等于娶了你的一切，包括 你的社会关系、你的一切、、、 ——顾小西妈妈
Chinese
They express thier love implicitly（含蓄地） and cautiously
The quiet woman from The Book of Poetry
the poetry depicts lover's first date,the girl sent the boy red-tube writing brush ,the boy was too excited but responded implicitly.
To be together or not, it’s just a question between the two. They don’t consider too much.
They care a lot about the feeling when they are with the other, instead of their external (外部 的，表面的)conditions like family and job. If the feeling is good, be together Otherwise, break up~
Chinese And Western Views On Love
General Overview
·Westerners attach importance to amativeness （恋爱）and think love is foremost.However,chinese value marriages despise love. ——ZhuGuangqian
Death, that hath suck’d the honey of thy breath, hath had no power yet upon thy beauty: Thou art not conquer’d; Beauty’s ensign yet is crimson in thy lips and in thy cheeks, and death’s pale flag is not advanced there.----Romeo and Juliet 死虽然已经吸去了你呼吸中的芳蜜，却还没有力量摧残你的美貌；你 还没有被他征服，你的嘴唇上、面庞上，依然显着红润的美艳，不曾 让灰白的死亡进占。死亡，即使能夺走爱人的生命，却永远也不能消 灭恋人间不渝的爱情。