Impression after Reading---Men Are from Mars, Women Are from VenusI am 22 years old. I have never had a boyfriend. If I am an American, people willthinktheremustbesomethingwrongwithme.Butfortunately,IamaChinese.Nobody will laugh at me or think I am weird or something for I having never hangedout with a boy for almost 22 years. Well, I really do not know much about males and Ieven feel a little afraid when I am walking alone with a boy, especially a boy I like..This term, I bought a book with my curiosity. It is a best-selling book in America.The name of the book isMen Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. The author isJohnGray,Ph.The classic guide to understand the opposite sex. I think that is the reasonthat I bought it----getting to know boys.The beginning of the book is quite imaginary. Suppose that men are from MarsandwomenarefromVenus.OnedaylongagotheMartians,lookingthroughtheirteles copes, discovered the Venusians. Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelingsthey had never known. They fell in love and quickly invented space travel and flew toVenus. Well, you may doubt how they can fall in love with each other and how theywill get along well with each other.In this book, we can not only understand the opposite sex, but also know how toestablisharmoniousrelationshipwitheoppositesex.Thereareseveralthingsthat the author explores:With discovering so many things, I think what I learn from the book is not justthe opposite sex, love, and marriage, but more about human beings minds. In otherwords, it is like a psychological book, teaching us how to act and how to understandothers’ acts. It is a kind ofreflection. It happens in everyone, not just in the oppositesex. As long as we know each others’thoughts, we can understand each other better,as the human nature’s point of view.Thereareobviousdifferencesbetweenmenandwomen.Mengainself-satisfaction through proving their power and ability. To offer a manunsolicitedadvice is to presume that he does not know what to do or that he can not do it onhisown.Peoplesaymenarealwaysmoresensitivethanwomen,itistruetosomedegree. When men arefacedwitha problem, theywill tryto finda solutionratherthan just talking about the problems like women. In daily life, they pay moreattentionto“objects” and “things” rather than people and feelings. And especially when theyfeel need, they can also feel great happiness. I always wondered that why itseemsthatinaromanticrelationship,menoftengivemorethanwomendo.Thereasonseem s to be apparent now, it is because when a man’s girlfriend or wife needs him, heis eager to help her and meet her needs, which will give him a sense of achievements.Therefore, when you have a boyfriend, do not always do things on your own or rejecthis help, which can help to keep a good relationship. Just like the author said,” Menare motivated and empowered when they feelneed.”To be honest, I can get happy when being good to others, loving them and givingmore. Since love has the magical power to make people happy, strong and unified, topreserve the sweet love between men and women seems quite important,especiallywhen they get married.Basically, we need to know what he or she is saying, because men and womens peakdifferentlanguages.Herearesomeexamplesinthebook.“Iamsotired,Ican’t do anything”translated into Martian means“Ihave been doing so much today,I really need a rest before I can do anything more. I am so lucky to have yoursupport.WouldyougivemeahugandreassuremethatIamdoingagoodjobandthatIdeserv e a rest?”Without this translation, when a woman say“Iam so tired, I can’t doanything.”a man may hear“Ido everything and you do nothing. You should do more.I can’t do it all. I feel so hopeless. I want a‘real man’to live with. Picking you was abig mistake.”“This house is always mess”translated into Martian means“TodayIfeel like relaxing, but the house is so messy. I am frustrated and I need a rest. I hopeyou don’t expect me to clean it all up. Would you agree with me that it is a mess andthen offer help to clean up part of it?”Without this translation, a man may hear“Thishouseis a mess because of you. I do possible to clean it up, and before I have finished,you have messed it up again. You are a lazy slob and I do not want to live with youunless you change. Clean up or clean out!”What I can tell from above is that men are always expecting a gentle way fromwomen and women arealwaysexpecting anassured way.When misunderstandingsarise, rember that we speak different languages; take the time necessary to translatewhat your partner really means or wants to say. This takes practice.Thisbookisnotonlytalkingaboutlove,theoppositesex,marriage,itisalsotalking about understanding, human nature andrelationship.Wheneveryou wal kinone’s life, you can not just walk away after you check it up.Accept the differencesbetween you, and try to understand them and make you closer. When you have a goodtime, open your heart to enjoy it; when you have a bad time, try to find a way to healit. Wedon’tneed to find out whether love is eternal or not, we just need to find a goodway to protect it, improve it, and feel it.。