学号：2010030231136 姓名：覃露班级：应用英语四班Chinese and western difference in marriageAbstrac t: this article aims at study the difference between Chinese and western in marriage. Chinese marriages are based on family conditions，while Westerns 'marriages are based on the same hobby .Their different survival environment affectthe people' characters and influence people's thoughts of their respective marriages.Men and women in the economy of different status determine their positions in the family, which determines the differences in their marriage. Social value is the mainstream of different thoughts, and it indirectly affects the public's view ofmarriage. Religious beliefs also play an important role in marriage customs and marriages maintaining.Key words: Concept about marriage between Western and China ; Livingenvironment ;The social valueI. IntroductionMarriage as a human institution exists in all major civilizations since the dawn of time. The Mystery of Holy Matrimony draws its sacred foundation from the creation of the first man and woman, whom God made in His own Image and Likeness and told to be fruitful and multiply? In Orthodox tradition, marriage and monasticism goes hand in hand, and are both considered holy in its calling in the service of God and His People.Most weddings contain wedding vows and a proclamation of marriage, usually by the officiate. Most weddings also involve wearing traditional clothes (i.e., kilts, white gown, red sari, etc.). A wedding is often followed or accompanied by a wedding reception.Other elements may include music, poetry, prayer or scripture. Some elements of the traditional Western weddi ng ceremony symbolize the bride's departure from her father’s control and entry into a new family with her husband. In modern Western weddings, this symbolism is largely vestigial.The common element in a wedding is the assumption of husband and wife roles as well as the roles of the future parents. The wedding is a special moment that marks the beginning of a new generation, a new family and a life together. This moment is recognized with traditions, ceremonies and rituals including engagement and wedding ceremonies.II.A comparison of the view of marriageThe mentioned marriage , has been described:" to the Chinese people, marriage is more like a commercial activity, so called marriage; and to the Western people, marriage is more like a house, to turn the world upside down together, not happy is a casual shoot two."Chinese marriage features: before the reform and opening up, low quality, high stability,60% marriage was" patchy"; after sexual confusion of ideas, divorce tide flood, is of low quality, low stability. While Westerns believe in neither strict Dan Ou system, is not fully open relationship, but for love, special hobby and multiple relationships inclusive. After investigation, Chinese standards are: appearance, age, family condition; and Western mate conditions are: respect, trust, interest.As for family conditions, from mate choice, Chinese regard marriage often become trading, while Westerns regarding marriages as buying and selling. In China marriage, people always is a man marries a wife, but very few people can speak a woman marry husband. So marriage more like a business, since it is a business that can not do without money. Now no man of the house in some female eyes wasn't the man. In some woman heart, a house worth one hundred prince charming, marriage is the best business investment opportunities, TV drama" Dwelling Narrowness" reveals the harsh reality. The famous thinker Engels pointedly, married for money is tantamount to long-term prostitution. Marriage of Western is the sale of two words upside down, called the buying and selling, men and women is seller and buyer. Woman looking for a man, first of all have to sell themselves, regardless of is the smart brain, outstanding talent, a beautiful face, beautiful figure or common interest, these are capital, if a man buying it, that is the marriage of the deposit. In the material on this Western is attitude, not afraid of marriage nothing, as long as a couple can share sb.'s joys and sorrows, there's bread, cars, houses will also have some.Married in China 's various customs procedures, pay attention to the so-called " ostentation" after the reform and opening up, more luxurious wedding, wedding companies, wedding photo studio like bamboo shoots after a spring rain like smoke. To some extent, Chinese wedding is in the show, with luxury outside proclaim seemingly strong love, and true love seems to no longer sacred first, marriage has become familiar. Videos related to online dating from the fashionable; from extramarital affairs to keep a mistress, the divorce rate with the GDP rising, marriage is more of a formality. The Western romantic wedding is simple, not too much attention to formThe differences of cultural traditions are the roots of the differences of educational traditions, which make the differences of cultural traditions exist and strengthen. Our traditional culture has considered the Confucianism as the leading place since Chun-Chill. Tone in with people and society’s relationship has already dominated the execution of education. Th e educational tradition created by it has been controlling people’s thought. However, the western educational traditions pay more attention to people’s development and ability’s cultivation. This characteristic also has a long historical process. Special education on the history of Chinese parents, with the noble spirit of molding people with outstanding works to inspire people, and Chinese history and culture deeply influenced by the tradition of every family. In the United States the family and moral education, religion played a role should not be underestimated. In modern society, parents still hope that God has always been common iIn fact, there are also many similarities between Chinese and western educations. As a tradition, there is no one better or worse. Which was born in a given cultural background and it were the products of certain cultures. Only in the original soil that can judge its degree of suitability. The educational traditions of the soil mostly are complemented in many aspects, and borrow ideas form each other to perfect continually.3.2 Influences of Economical Factors in MarriageResearch strongly and consistently indicates that marriage is a wealth building institution. Married people typically earn and save more than their unmarried counterparts. And it is not just the joining of resources and energies that create this financial benefit, but the permanence of marriage itself.3.2.2 Affluent Economy in ChinaDifferent from Western, Chinese people’s thinking of economy is more negative. It is a tradition that the parents who has a son, need to buy a new apartment for the new couple. It is always the man’s duty to buy a house, which is a great burden to men, and to marry price of the house. Not long ago, people in China used to save money for the marriage. To some degree, people don’t want to get married is also because of the high price of the apartment. Right now with the new policy of the government, more and more Chinese people feel like extent credit to pay for the house. That also encourages the couple to stay in marriage and both work outside. Chinese people usually do budgets are more conservative, while the United States budget is relatively close “to the limit”, and often have the tendency of consumption over budget (with the United States will be a substantial use of credit cards also have relations).3.3 Tolerance LevelsMarriage is not an end of one’s life but a new life just starts, is not a death of one’s single life but a life, which need to continue. With those many problems in marriage, people would take different ways to solve it. The holy Bible says, “Love is patient, love is kind.”3.3.1Better Ability of Tolerance in Chinese MarriageChinese women are the most patience women in the world. The thinking of “Marriage woman li kes the water which is puling out.” They think after marriage they already an individual; and need to solve her problem by her self. Chinese people have better tolerance is also because they love to pin their desire to achieve in the next generation. Having this hope, to bear an unhappy relationship in a marriage, is not a big deal any more.3.3.2Less Marriage Tolerance in WesternIn Western’s character, equality plays a significant role. The realization of being equality is deep in every Western’s heart. C ompared with Chinese people, they have less ability to tolerate the partner. They never oppress their affection. They know it very clear that as an individual, they have rights to gain equality, even in spiritual or marital. They think more highly of the romance in marriage, they have higher expectation of the quality of their life. They would not to bear in marriage.Divorce is more widely accepted; people are less committed to making a marriage work than they were fifty or one hundred year’s age.IV. ConclusionWhen it comes to planning a wedding people often honor traditions, even if they do not fully understand their origin or meaning. Every culture cherishes its own wedding traditions and superstitions. Some of those are closely followed even by those who are normally not superstitious.The figure of a bride in white is an important element of the ritual of marriage. However, new designs of gown are available so brides today may find themselves attracted to designs that do not look traditional. The symbolism behind the wedding dress, however, has not changed.If the entire community can establish a concept: Love is the foundation of marriage, and marriage should be maintained and developed friendship, family, responsibilities, obligations, good-hearted, such as the Chinese culture of tolerance in good quality, if not love, would also enable the marriage become warm and happy, so that others lamented the marriage was full of romantic love.Indeed, as the social development and cultural integration of the exchanges and people of the United States recognize the marriage was also a certain subtle changes. 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