从中美家庭教育的差异来分析中国家庭教育的现状The analysis of the actuality of Chinese family education from the difference between Chinese and American family education[摘要]家庭是人生的第一所学校，是学校教育的基础和重要补充。

一般地说，人都出生和生活在一个家庭中，都是首先通过家庭这个最小的社会基层组织，再进入更广泛的社会生活领域的。

因此，对每一个人的成长来说，家庭是第一所学校，父母是第一任教师。

家庭对儿童身体的发育，知识的获得，能力的培养，品德的陶冶，个性的形成，都是至关重要的。

中美两国在家庭教育上存在着显著的差异，如在家庭成员的相互关系上，我国家长大多处于统治地位，而美国家长更注重与孩子平等相处，他们是尊重自己子女的看法的；在育儿观上，中国家长大都希望孩子能出人头地，而美国家长更看重提高孩子的生存适应能力和创造能力；在教育方式上，中国家长喜欢包办替代，而美国家长更愿意让孩子自己动手实践，这些差异导致了两国儿童成人后在生存适应能力上的明显差距。

从中美家庭教育的差异上可以看到我国在家庭教育上存在的不足。

因此，正确认识并借鉴国外先进的教育方法，对促进孩子健康成长、提高未来人才的素质具有很重要的现实意义。

Abstract Family is the first school of one’s life,which is also the basis and essential supplement of formal education.Generally speaking,family,as the smallest cell of society,is the first life step for everyone as we all were born and live in it,from which we enter a larger and wider field of social life. So as for everyone, family is the first school and parents are first teachers in it. Besides, family is closely linked to children’s body maturity, knowledge acquirement, ability cultivation, morality edification and character formation. And distinct differences can be found easily in family education between China and America, on the family member relationship, parents are dominant over children in China while equal in the USA, parents are more likely to show respect to children’s opinions.On the belief of raising children, Chinese parents are unexceptional to hope their children to be outstanding without regard to their own quality while American parents pay more attention to improving children’s ability to survive and creat based on their own interest. On the way of education, Chinese parents will monopolise almost children’s everything that should be done by children while American parents are more willing to let children do everything all by themselves. Because of those above cause a great disparity in adapting changing environment after they grow up. Thus making it with significant reality for children’s healthy growing up and improvement of future tatents’ quality by recognising and learning foreign advanced teaching methods correctly, especially from America.[关键词] 家庭教育；育儿观；教育方式；教育结果；传统教育；民主教育；现状Key words: Family education,Belief of raising children,Ways of education,Result of education,Traditional education,Democratic education,Actuality家庭教育指的是在家庭互动过程中父母对子女的成长发展所产生的教育影响，也是全社会各个教育环节中最重要的一环。

中美两国由于在文化传统、观念意识、生活方式以及社会习俗等方面存在诸多不同之处，导致了两国在家庭教育方面也存在着很多差异，正确认识和了解两国之间的这种差异，对于促进我国当代家庭教育的良性发展有着十分重要的指导作用和现实意义。

Introduction Education, to some extent, is not only a social activity to cultivate human beings, but also a main way to pass social culture and experience from generation to generation. Among all ways to educate, family education is the earliest and the most important one, which plays an essential role in the mode of thinking andthe formation of world outlook，which are closely related to children’s character s. Besides,there are many differences between China and the USA in family education, because of the root differences in culture tradition, idea and sense, lifestyle and social customs. Only by recognising and understanding the differences between the countries correctly, can we promote the positive development of family education with vital significance in direction and actuality.Recently a Chinese-American young man, Jimmy Lin, has prevailed in NBA. Maybe in your mind, the NBA belongs to the black and white, few yellow guys can be seen on that highest level of basket stage except Yao Ming and Yi Jianlian. But Yao Ming has retired last summer, which leaves us endless memory and pity. While Yi Jianlian doesn’t have much chance to show in Dallas Mavericks. Both of them have a superior height, which enables them a great advantage over others. But with a height of 1.91m, you may think it is hard to show in CBA, let alone NBA. But Jimmy Lin not only did it but also succeed. How can a obscure lad without so many body advantages just succeed? Besides, he is a Harvard graduate. Why can’t we bring up some people like that with the largest population in China? There must be something wrong with our education. In this essay, we will have a hot discussion on the issue and try to find out some possible reasons.中美家庭教育的差异I Differences in family education between China and the USA传统的中国式教育强调仁爱与服从，而美国家庭则注重公正和自由。

中国家长通常喜欢“塑造”孩子，希望孩子按自己的意愿去发展。

他们往往用自己的理性来干涉孩子们的自然发展，因此很大程度上剥夺了孩子自由选择的权利。