Silence 实践活动后的最好进行内省 分清楚主次
第二课 Resilience 适应力 Optimistic A sense of meaningful Faith Pro-social behavior What I’m good at? Focusing on strengths ★ Social support ★ Set goals★ A role model★
Question create reality. They create possibilities. A question begin a quest. Put your mind on what’s you good at Take responsibility! No one is coming. It’s up to you to make the most out of this experience. Lesson3 Marva Collins Ok, it’s hard, unfair, difficult. However, it’s your own responsibility. No one is coming. It’s up to you to make that difference in your life! Collins’ way---how can we cultivate the seed of generation in our student? If we only ask “how many geometric shapes do you see on the screen?” and then, we’ll miss the children on the bus, They completely missed the seed of greatness. Questions make a difference! Most people lead lives of quiet desperation. Comfortably numb, how can we go beyond~? How can we get beyond that “quiet desperation”? 幸福并不代表没有痛苦,幸福也不会自动降临。 心理健康模型: 1. Do we focus on weaknesses, which is the disease model, say let’s get rid of weaknesses? Or do we focus on strength? The disease model, the optimum level is the zero: let’s just be OK; let’s just not hurt. The health model, let go beyond that, let’s get excitement, feel passion, not only the state of relax, it’s the creative tension. “Flow” we engage what we doing, much more than being “comfortable numb” not only rise to positive, but also can help us deal with desperation.
A failure of personal growth Psychology is not just study of the disease, weakness, and damage, it also is the study of the strength and virtue, treatment is not just fixing what is wrong; it also builds what is right.
Build bridge: 将世界一分为二。 What the world needs is more than anything else, is practical idealists. Sense of mission 使命感 Your desire to do good. Self-esteem Meditation actually transforms our brain. Three physical exercises, 30 minutes each time has the same effect as powerful as our most psychiatric drugs. The foundation of being an idealists is believe change is possible. 第四课 The possibility of change! The tip of the stem is actually about democratizing excellence. Study the best and applying it to the rest of us. One of the most significant barriers to people doing things change the world, to actually introducing change is they underestimate their ability to bring about change. All history is a record of the power of minorities, and of minorities of one. 改变是从一小部分人开始的,然后指数性的扩张,问题是如何让思想扩张? Example of smile,Smile are contagious. Exponential function,the power of one. Premise number 3: Internal factors versus external factors. Income, statues, external circumstances make very little difference. Not lower or high expectations---that’s won’t make a difference to our levels of wellbeing. What will make a difference to our levels of wellbeing is right or wrong expectation. Our happiness is mostly depended on our state of mind; it’s about changing perception, about changing our interpretation of the world, of what’s happing to us, of our achievements, of our failures. It’s about what we choose to perceive, what we choose to focus on. It’s about transformation, as opposed to the external information or the external success. The fourth premises: Permission to be human. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can change; and wisdom to know the difference. 屈服并不同于主动接受 In our culture today, we don’t give us permission to be human, the freedom to experience these painful emotions as well. We all need a space, a place of our lives, where we give ourselves the PH, whether it’s with close friend, people we care about, whether it’s first and foremost with ourselves when we write a journal, where we do give ourselves the permission to be, to cry, to be joyous—because we don’t, we pay a price. We need a space of unconditional acceptance. Experience the envy when I experienced it, accept it;and then enjoy and celebrate it---the positive side. Ironic processing---when we suppress a nature phenomenon and that phenomenon only strengthens. The same applies to the painful emotions that are natural. And when we try to suppress them, they will strengthen. Painful emotions are as much as part of human nature as the law of gravity is part of physical nature. “Nature to be commanded as must be obeyed”. 严重的抑郁是我们扮演快乐所付出的终极代价 I accept my nature, I accept my state, but it’s doesn’t means resignation. What I’m talking about is active acceptance. The A B C of psychology. A. stand for affection--emotion B. stand for behavior--action C. stand for cognition—thoughts. 要实现改变,需要在A B上实现 Unconditional acceptance permission human relates primarily to our affect, their are there. That does not mean we need to accept our behavior and out cognition. Emotion is no matter right or wrong, the question is how do I choose my behavior to act as a result of it? That is where the