How to Fall Out of Love
Make a list of why you should not be 'lovers'. Is your friend in another relationship? Realizing you may be very much alike but that you look for very different things in a partner may really help you move on, think carefully if this is your case.
Talk to your friend. If you cannot put your feelings aside, let your friend in on them, and then leave it up to your friend to decide what, if anything, to do. It's always better to talk it over than keep it inside. Sit your friend down and have a heart-to-heart, share your feelings in a calm, rational manner - don't get crazy, or cry, if you can help it. Desperation will not help.
Give your friend time to consider what you just told him or her. You just shared your innermost feelings with this friend - you know your friendship is on the line. But you've also rolled the dice, gambling that your friend might have similar feelings for you. Either way,
your friend needs time to process what you've told him or her.
Allow your friend to discuss it with you without pressure. It is okay, though, to let your friend know how hard it was to talk about this. Try saying things like, "I understand my feelings are more extreme than yours at this moment, so don't feel pressured." or "I don't expect you to do anything at all about what I've said." or "Gee, this is very awkward. I'm really nervous, so bear with me." Your friend will get the picture
Make a quick getaway if you are rejected. Should your friend decisively say, "I'm sorry, but I really only think of you as a friend, and I don't expect those feelings to change," just be gracious: "That's okay, no worries. I may need to take a little breather for a little while, and I hope you understand." Then get out of there, and go cry in your pillow if you need to. Or just find some way to express that emotion. Don't smother it under some corner of your
heart.
Take some space. Everything takes time. You will need time to allow your hopes and dreams to be replaced by reality. Don't rush yourself. It may take a while before you feel comfortable resuming your friendship, but eventually, you will.。