当生活陷入困境时记住这8件事8 Things to Remember When Life Gets RoughWe‟ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. So what is their secret? Most of it has to do with attitude. Here are 8 things to remember when life gets rough:人人都会经历困难时期。
都会克服那些困难。
然而，有人能比其他人处理得更好。
所以，他们的秘诀为何？很多时候这取决于态度。
当生活陷入困境时要记住下面的8件事情：1. What is, is.Buddha‟s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to …what is‟ that causes your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can‟t change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it.1.是什么就是什么佛教箴言告诉我们：“你逃避事实，如此造就了你的痛苦。
”好好想想吧。
此话之意在于唯有当我们坚持现状时才会招来苦难。
如果你能改变，那么行动起来！改变现状！若不能改变，那你只有两个选择：1要么接受现状，要么摈弃消极。
2让痛苦缠绕不休。
2. It‟s only a problem if you think it‟s a problem.Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then your thoughts andemotions will be negative. But if you think it‟s something you can learn from, then suddenly, it‟s not a problem anymore.2.你说它是个问题，它才是问题多数时候，我们就是自己最大的敌人。
幸福真的取决于看事物的角度。
如果你认为某事是个问题，那你的思想和情绪都将变得消极。
但如果你认为可以从某事中汲取经验，很快地，这将不再是个问题。
3. If you want things to change, you need to start with changing yourself. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don‟t you know people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn‟t that largely because they feel chaotic inside? Yes, it is. We like to think that changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will change.如果你想改变事情，你得从改变自己开始你的内心世界决定了你的外在表现。
你知道那些生活得苦不堪言的人吗？他们的痛苦难道不是很大程度上出于内心的混乱吗？是，的确是这样。
我们倾向于认为改变环境就能改变自己。
但得反过来想—在环境改变之前，我们首先需要改变自己。
4. There is no such thing as failure—only learning opportunities.You should just wipe the word “failure” right out of your vocabulary. All great people who have ever achieved anything have “failed” over and over. In fact, I think it was Thomas Edison who said something like, “I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just first found 99 ways that it didn‟t work.” Take your so-called “failures” and learn something from them. Learn h ow to do it better next time. 没有所谓的失败-它只是学习的机会你只需要将“失败”一词从你的词典里删掉。
但凡取得成就的卓越人士都曾反反复复地经历过失败。
其实，就如托马斯.爱迪生所说“发明电灯泡我从未失败过，我只是找到了99种无效的方法而已。
”正视你所谓的“失败”，然后从中汲取教训。
学得下次如何做得更好。
5. If you don‟t get something you want, it just means something better is coming.That‟s hard to believe sometimes, I know. But it‟s true. Usually, when you look back at your life, you will be able to see why it was actually a good thing that something didn‟t work out. Maybe the job you didn‟t get would have made you spend more time away from your family, but the job you did get was more flexible. Just have faith that everything happens exactly the way it‟s supposed to.如果你没有得到想要的，那只意味着更好的即将来临我知道，有时很难去相信。
但这是真的。
每每当你回首往事的时候，你就能知道为何要好事多磨了。
可能你未得到的那份工作会让你与家人分开更久，但另一份你得到的工作在时间上却更加灵活。
所以要坚信任何事情都是按照既定的轨道进行着的。
6. Appreciate the present moment.This moment will never come again. And there is always something precious about every moment. So don‟t let it pass you by! Soon it will just be a memory. Even moments that don‟t seem happy can be looked upon as something that you might miss so meday. As the country song by Trace Adkins says, “You‟re gonna miss this…you‟re gonna want this back. You‟re gonna wish these days hadn‟t gone by so fast….you may not know this now, but you‟re gonna miss this…”珍惜眼前时光不会重来。
每时每刻都有它独特的价值。
所以不要轻易错过！让它成为你永恒的记忆。
即便是不怎么开心的时刻在某天也将成为你缅怀的过去。
正如特西.阿迪克斯在一首乡村歌里唱道，“你将怀念此刻...希望时光倒流。
你将祈祷这些日子不要飞逝...现在你或许不会知道，但终会怀念这天...”7. Let go of desire.Most people live with “attached mind.” What this means is that they attach themselves to a desire, and when they don‟t get it, their emot ions plummet into negativity. Instead, try to practice “detached mind.” That means that when you want something, you will still be happy whether you get it or not. Your emotions remain happy or neutral.远离欲望多数人都生活在“牵连之心”当中。
这就是说他们将自己与欲望牵连在一起，如果欲壑难填，情绪就会跌入谷底。
相反，试着去“脱离牵挂”。
如此，当你渴望某事时，无论你得到与否，你都会一如既往地快乐。
而你的情绪也将停留在快乐或中立之态。
8. Understand and be grateful for your fears.Fear can be a great teacher. And overcoming fears can also make you feel victorious. For example, when I was in college, I feared public speaking (one of the top 3 fears of all humans). So I find it humorous now that not only do I speak in front of a group every day by being a college professor, I also teach public speaking! Overcoming fears just takes practice. Fear is really just an illusion. It‟s optional.了解并感激你的恐惧恐惧是伟大的老师。